Poly faithful dating
In my practice as a relationship consultant and expert in polyamory, I routinely encounter people who love each other dearly and have drastically different relationship needs.
Most often it is a man who wants to have a polyamorous relationship and a woman who wishes to remain monogamous, but sometimes it is the woman who wants to be poly and the man who is devoutly monogamous.
Badgering leads to false consent and, very soon after, relationship meltdown.
Start small If one partner just wants some open-ness and might be satisfied with something less threatening than falling in love with someone else, consider starting small.
A few people in my 15-year study of polyamorous families explained how becoming polyamorous saved their marriage from divorce, though they are in the minority.
Unfortunately, becoming poly to avoid divorce works only extremely rarely, and far more often the relationship self-destructs more spectacularly than it may otherwise.
For those in high-conflict relationships, becoming polyamorous to save a relationship works about as well as having a baby to save a marriage—abysmally.People can make their own boundaries at swing clubs: It is OK to go and just watch, or flirt with others and not have sex with them.